Too many times females are in competition with one another in the fitness industry. It’s usually who looks better than the other, and putting down women in the process. I want to say that if you have negative things to say about someone, you’re showing your own insecurities.
As women, we’re held to a different standard in society, and that spews over into the fitness industry. We should have some muscle, but not too much. We should be strong, but not too strong. As women, we fall into this trap, too. And as a result, we spread insults and hate to other women in the industry.
To get rid of this, we must embrace every aspect of ourselves. Embrace every curve, stretch mark, dimple, and scar that you have. I know it’s a cliché, but if you can’t love yourself, how do you expect to show genuine kindness and love to others?
Instead of picking yourself apart, embrace who you are and what you’ve accomplished in the gym thus far. Being shredded is cool; overall abundance and happiness is better. Just because you see “Instagram models” with six-packs doesn’t mean their lives are perfect. Abs don’t equal success.
If you find that you’re one of the people who jumps to conclusions about women, like – “Oh, she’s on steroids” —because she’s strong and shredded, you need to realize one thing: You have to be patient with yourself. You’re hating on them because you’re impatient and expecting to be as strong and as shredded as those other girls you see on their Instagram pages.
Earning a physique or the strength gains that you want doesn’t happen overnight. If it did, would it really be all that special? Most likely not. Be patient, because you’ll realize how hard you worked after you’ve achieved the goals you set for yourself. And then you’ll keep pushing for the next one.
This is why I love the sport of powerlifting. At my meets, every single girl in there will be cheering for me. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the same weight class as another girl, and trying to break the same record – that girl will still cheer for you. It’s a very uplifting sport. This is the motto of my business: To empower (mostly) women and help them discover their potential in fitness, which translates to all other aspects of life.
I hope this inspires you ladies to start lifting up other females. It’s hard enough to get respect sometimes from men in fitness who think they know it all. Don’t put anyone down. Have gratitude for what you’ve accomplished thus far, and you’ll soon realize that your goals will be achieved faster than you think!
Okay, my rant is over!